Monday, May 17, 2004

Keeping Cynicism In Check

"The check is in the mail."
They say that is one of most oft repeated lies.

The guy we collided with the other day called this afternoon. Since I was blissfully wrestling Morpheus at the time, he initially spoke with Amy. She told him I would call when I woke up but told me he was very polite with her.

That put me at ease when I called, and I was further relieved by his extremely gentle and apologetic demeanor during our conversation. Gone completely was the somewhat antagonist tone from the other day. Although he was still mystified about the accident, he no longer was disputing any aspect of what happened. He wasn't denying anything or fumbling for excuses.

He agreed without hesitation to pay all charges associated with repairing our car. In fact, he's paying a little more than the lowest estimate I received.

I have to admit, I was anticipating the worst. I envisioned him being dissatisfied with my choice of repair shops, the seemingly high cost of the repairs, etc...

That wasn't the case. He did admit to being a little stunned by the price, but he didn't dispute it at all.

He also went out of his way to apologize if he seemed gruff or rude at the time of the accident. I accepted his apology readily. I certainly understand how everyone is a little on edge at times such as that.

I am so thankful that this is not something that is going to linger and that we won't have to spend time pursuing payment. No one wants to add stress to their lives, and I'm foremost among them.

Getting this situation resolved without conflict and with expediency is wonderful, but I'm perhaps more appreciative of the life lesson in all this - I am too often ready to expect the worst from people.

I need to be more willing to see the's certainly as readily apparent.

Our conversation ended with him literally saying, "The check is in the mail" and I have no reason to doubt him.

The psalmist says it is better to take refuge in the Lord than to trust in man. Certainly that is true, but it's also nice to be reminded that there are still men you can trust too.