Friday, May 16, 2003


I'm giving thanks today.

Yes, I'm appreciative of the Spurs deflating the reputation and egos of the Lakers, but that's not my focus. Today I'm giving thanks for Kathleen Roten.

Kathy is on my mind because it was 31 years ago yesterday that I "invaded" her tranquil life. Kathy was married to Travis Roten, my mother's half-brother and on May 15th, 1972 their lives were up-ended when my brothers and I moved into their Dallas home. Three long-haired teenagers from New York, full of attitude, fear and a lot of half suppressed anger.

Kathy and Travis had no kids of their own. They were in their early 30's. Dallas was thriving. They were in a perfect position to lead very content, unencumbered lives. BOOM! Instant family.

I lived with Kathy and Travis for only about three years, and I didn't make it easy on them. They eventually divorced. I'll never know if that would have happened had not the "Main boys" been suddenly thrust into their lives. What I do know is that in each passing year I have grown closer to Kathy. She is my surrogate Mom now, as much as I allow her to be, which isn't enough . Amy considers Kathy her "Mother in law" and she's "Grandma Kathy" to my brother's daughter.

Kathy not only accepted the challenge of my brothers and I, she has spent most of her life caring for others. Among them, her mom, who passed away this year, and her mother's sister who is now 99 years old. She gives of herself faithfully and without reservation. She gives her all.

Her strength amazes me. Her devotion inspires me.

She is a saintly woman who deserves a special place in Heaven and more recognition than I am capable of providing in mere words.

Alas, words are all I have. I sent some to her in email, others I am passing upward...through prayer.

Kathy, thank you for all you've done for me.

Father God, Thank You for Kathy.....

Philippians 1:3
I thank my God every time I remember you.